If you have a two gauge regulator on your bottle, one will be bottle pressure and the other will be flow, so you really don't need another (assuming we're talking MIG). I generally set the flow at 10litres/min on mine, and adjust from there.
Regarding auto helmets, try sending a PM to Weldequip on this forum for a quote, or take a look at DIYWelding who is also on this forum.
Is that using the small disposable bottles? If it is, you will probably need to open the regulator fully to get the required flow - they are notoriously unhelpful regs!
For TIG, a peashooter type flowmeter is generally recommended but I don't currently have a TIG set so can't recommend anything there.
If it's a full size bottle then you may as well get a two gauge regulator for the MIG - a PM to Weldequip will get you a very reasonable quote and some good advice.