There is nothing wrong with a "bit of overkill". At least you know that they wont wobble or bend if you put a ton or 4 on the top of it. One thing I would have done, and not sure if you did or not, is welded some pads on the bottom of the legs to spread the load in case you do some serious banging on top. Anyway nice table!
If I'm honest I'm a bit disappointed after reading the title, but the table looks nice.
This is all getting a bit out of hand now, moderate to serious banging on a table top and the mention of stillettos
Could be worse, one or more of us could be this fellow......
https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070711173202AAeeEnk [don't you just love Google ]
I can't see it happening with these huffing legs!